Do You Believe In Soul Mates?

Hi Everyone!  Been a while….don’t grumble…..winters are long and hard for me.  The solitude of the New England weather, the darkness, and the insurmountable endless days and nights that flow without care, one into another, until we wonder what day it is?  And how much longer the winds will whip, and the snow and rains will fall, before a flower peaks up through the thawing ground.  This winter has left me much time to speculate and has given me a long awaited chance to rethink things of the past, some things to leave there, a memory best left in my mind, a lesson best remember for all time.  And other things ….mistakes, issues that became more than they needed, friends forgotten…now recalled, and how as time continues it’s pursuit in the ultimate ending….we all have purpose.  We all are spiritual beings who chose a human existance.  We are here to learn, to love, to forgive, and not forget.  To forget is a lesson lost, and each lifetime heeds us many lessons.  The reason for  my question, in my title, is that through out this winter, this has been a question that I have heard over and over again.  Many people searching for that ultimate someone.  The person that will fulfill them.  To bring them the happiness they just can’t seem to find on their own.

    The job, the money, the security, the knowing that “I cannot live this life alone, there has to be something else?”  But…what if this is all….there is nothing more.  You are where you are, and that is that.  Is this a terrible thing?  Did you make so many mistakes that the life you have can not be made into a good thing?  Are you with the wrong person?  Are you always looking for the grass to be greener on the otherside of the fence?

     Here’s my take on that.  No.  Not ever.  You are the living example of the choices you make.  You are the ultimate being in this world in that body, and all you believe can be changed.  All you choose can be undone.  And the person you thought you loved, and even married, can be undone, just remember something drew you to that person, a word, a look, an energy.  So many people have guilt.  Guilt over not being able to say goodbye,  of not being there when a loved one passes.  Of being the one to say, “It’s over.  I can’t do this anymore.  Or…”I loved you once, but that has faded, and I must go.  Or even to say…I have found another.”  These are real emotions.  Real feelings.  And we are not to feel guilt.  Falini once said…”Guilt is a waste of time….it is the past crippling us in the present.”  I so agreed with those words, I don’t believe we make mistakes when we choose this earthly incarnation.  We move through it.  Defying it, loving it, challenging it, and all along the way we meet others.  Some we feel a strange draw too, perhaps an attraction?  These are souls from past lives, they were lovers, friends, or merely close family…..some we meet may be instantly disliked.  A feeling of wariness, or a fear even.  Also from another life.  Karma is a big bowl to hang onto if you don’t let alot of it go.  How?  Make peace with those you dislike.  Be kind, sincere, and walk away.  If they in turn do not send the same feelings, it doesn’t matter, you and your souls karma have cleared them from your journey, never having to face that one again.  As is in every relationship, moment, and chance.  All of these we have chosen.  Soul mates are everywhere.  They are people who seem like siblings, even when the blood is not the same.  Do not feel guilty or honor bound to your blood relations, it means nothing, if the love there is not equal and only one is trying.  Eventually you will wear yourself out, trying to make the other happy.  And this, my friends is not living.  It is existing.  So release them, cut the chord, move onward, that leads ultimately, upward, outward, wherever the next world begins.  Lovers, they are the one thing every person seeks, and rarely finds, at least the first time.  We search and search…sometimes marrying the one person, we feel compelled to stay with, whom we aren’t absolutely certain about, worry about, yet want no onther to have them.  This is a past life love.  A certain devotion, and we carry on until we can no longer enable ourselves, but feel disabled to stay.  I know many stay for their children.  But if you remember, that all souls start in the same place, with the same task at hand, then children know exactly what we know.  They knew in the spirit world that love would always be there, but the faces may change.  Divorce is hard, and no matter when it happens or why, there is pain.  To say there isn’t would be lying.  Any time a relationship that carries feelings and love ends, their is pain.  Yet….when time begins to heal us, and cure us of our ills, we see that perhaps their is another, a person we never dreamed would come into our lives.  Yet again, when we meet them, it is an instant feeling of emotion.  These are soul mates too.  There are soul mates that make us feel instant attraction, and sexual feelings.  Others that we know are and will be our lifetime friends, and family.  And many that will teach us, guide us, for a day, a year, or longer, and then they are gone, but never forgotten.  Animals are soul mates.  Who has never not felt their heart break at the loss of a devoted pet, not matter what kind of pet it is.  They too, will travel the road home, the first for us to meet, when our turn to end this particular life is terminated.  As I tell all my clients, and from the lessons I have learned, love comes in many forms, embrace it.  Challenge it.  Change it.  When we lose passion for things, it is our infinite wisdom, our souls purpose to signal a change.  Rather than sit and feel sad, stand up, walk ahead, and see the light in the distance, it’s a new day, and new dawn, and no matter where your feet carry you.  Where your heart takes you, love is always there, perhaps in the eyes of a stranger….from hundreds of years ago.  Life is a mystery…your life is a novel, make the tale one of passion, profit and patience, and you have lived a life of wonder.

March 15, 2010   Posted in: Uncategorized  No Comments

A recent Letter I would like to share…

Hi Vicki,

I was at the night at your place 1/9/10 I was there with the couple who had a son who commited sucicide last fall at 14. There was 2 other women and myself, Just in case, I’m sure you remember, but I’m just refreshing you. I was the one who had a mini donkey and was worrying if I should adopt another.

Here is the thing… I was reading your book. When I got to the part where you are in Germany on a base with your husband, you smelled the perfume and asked her what she was wearing, she said nothing, it smells like Halston, your sister Heather wears it all the time. As soon as I read the word Heather, I knew the rest of the story. This is so weird. I was like OMG. I knew your mother, Heather, your little sister and I think I met you also once. I didn’t know your family that well. But even that was a coincidence.I used to do your mothers Hair at the Salon at the Fox Run Mall in Newington NH. Great Expectations outside of what Was Jordan Marsh, now Macy’s. I always envied your family, they were all SO SO NICE, mine was not. I thought they are so lucky to have such a wonderful family.

I also always thought how beautiful all of you were. I remember your mother telling me about your little sister who had a thing for JFK, president Kennedy. She used to tell me how she was soooo into JFK, yet she was never even born when he was around? Then come to find out, back at that time, She said she lived in Wells Maine, I said I do too, where do you live, she lived on Depot rd, so did I…. ??? I was like you’re kidding me, you live on Depot rd? in Wells, so do I. I used to do Heathers hair too. I thought God she is sooooo beautiful. Then I heard the horrible news about the car accident. I really thought it had HAD to be someone else, it couldn’t happen to such a wonderful family. Then when I heard HOW the accident happened, I then also thought, it couldnt be, maybe thats just a rumor, maybe it didn’t really happen That way, kids on purpose shutting off the headlights & speeding thru stops signs., then I find out it really did happen that way. By the time I found out about what happened, it was over, the funeral and all that.

I felt HORRIBLE. I wanted to do something? at least a card. I found a super good sympathy card, the poem was the Rose still grows beyond the wall. To this very day, when ever I buy a sympathy card I think of Heather and your mother & family. Your mother came to see me at the mall a while after… after a time. She told me that was THE BEST card of all the cards she got. I loved it so much I had bought several and still keep one in my card collection drawer.

The poem talked about the rose, growing towards a crack in the stone wall, where the light was shining brightly. The rose is now on the other side of that stone wall, and the rose still lives beyond the wall on the other side. I felt like it was saying , and the meaning was we live on…on the other side. And I gave that to your Mother way back then…. I just cannot get over the coincidences.

I remember you all had GREAT HAIR . not just because I used to do hair, you all had super nice thick auburn hair, all soooo pretty too. Even when I first heard about you as a medium, I thought you looked familiar, but didnt think anything more than that. Wowo. I think I know the answer, but is your Mom still living here with us??? I just wanted to share this with you. I think next time I’d rather do one on one appt. I think maybe I would get more from it…

In Light

Sandy

March 13, 2010   Posted in: Uncategorized  No Comments

The Medicine of the Future will be plants, and herbs…nature’s medicine. “Einstein”

                               PETS For the Elderly:  A Therapeutic Match

Research shows that older people who have pets enjoy better physical and emotional health.

Animals fill a void in the lives of the elderly who are alone without friends or loved onesl.  Pets can greatly increase quality of life for many senior citizens.  Dr. Sandra Barker, director of the Center for Human-Animal Interaction at Virginia Commonwealth University, recalls the story of Anne, a depressed 95 year old who, after being given a dog named Pumpkin, began to eat again.  When Annie’s landlord sued her for violating a no-pet police, she was asked in deposition what would happen if Pumpkin were taken away. “I’ll die,” Annie replied.

Pets for the Eldery Foundation matches seniors with cats and dogs by underwriting the pets’ adoptions.  “Those who are responsible for a pet are likely to take better care of themselves, because they feel someone is counting on them,” said general manager Susan Kurowski.  The Waltham Book of Human-Animal Interactions published a study for elderly dog owners revealing 75 percent of men and 67 percent of women considered their dog their only friend.

While pets for the Elderly focuses on matching senior citiens with cats and dogs, birds, rabbits, and fish still provide the desired effects.  The Waltham Book of Human-Animal Interactions also published a study that found elderly women in nursing homes preferred an hour-long session interacting with a rabbit to an hour of oopen leisure time.  Animals don’t judge the people who love them, making the comfort of a lap animal, the liveliness of an aviary, or an aquarium’s tranquility uncondition pleasures.

Proof on the Charts

Donna Williamson and her cat, Moochie, participants in the Delta Society Pet Partner Program, were called on to visit a terminal patient.  When they arrived, family members greeted them in tears as the patients had slipped into a coma.  Donna put Moochie in bed with the man, who awoke from the coma, took his arms out from under the sheets and began petting the cat.  “The murse sat there with her mouth wide open,” Williamson said.  “Every time I see that nurse, she relates what a miracle that was.” 

The Delta Society is committed to improving human health through service and therapy animals.  While animals are proven health aids to all people, their benefits to senior citizens is extraordinary.  A study published  in the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society found that  elderly pet owners are more active, cope better with stress, and have lower blood pressure.

Dr. Edward Creagan of the Mayo Medical School observed, “If pet ownership was a medication, it would be patented tomorrow.”  Whether it’s walking a dog or brushing a cat, activity benefits the cardiovascular system and helps keep joints flexible.  Creagan cited a study of patients 12 months after suffering heart attacks, finding 9 out of 10 of those with pets survived, opposed to 7 out of 10 without pets.  A study in the Journal of personality and Social issues reveals that dogs, especially, promoted exercise; owners spend and average of 1.5 hours outdoors daily.  Even fish foster healthy living- a Purdue University study found that the presence of an aquarium at mealtimes increases appetites of Alzheimer’s patients who don’t eat enough for good nutrition.

Introducing a Social Life

“We had an elderly gentleman adopt a puppy today,” Michelle McCann of Participants  PAWS in Ft. Walton Beach, Fla., wrote to Pets for the Elderly.  “He was standing inthe lobby holding his pupy as we all ‘oohed and ‘ahhed,’ and he was laughing about what a chick magnet his puppy was going to be!”

Animals are indeed social magnets.  Nursing home communities such as Silverado and Eden Alternative were founded on principles of meaningful interactions driven by an animal-filled environment  Administrator Noralynn Snow houses dogs, cats, birds, fish – even kangaroos- at Silverado’s Aspen Park Facility.  The latter especially, she says, has the “oooh, ahhh” factor, which encourages families normally shy of the residents at the home, to visit.  Cooperative animal care also spurs interaction between the residents .

Different Pets, Different Frets

Though all animals offer beenefits to elderly, some are better suited toward certain individuals.  The International Journal of Aging andHuman Development found that cats offer many of the social aspects sought by lonely peole who cannot provide the regular exercise dogs require.

Additionally, “Many elderly people also get a real satisfaction out of caged birds,” said Dr. William Fortney of Kansas State University’s College of Veterinary Medicine.  “They are easy keepers and very social animals.”  Noralynn Snow of Silverado notes that bird noises are especially important to those who are bedridden, because they can derice a sense of the outdoors from birds.  Even rats provide companionship.  Veterinarian Dr. Cam Day says, “Rats are easy to keep and are not expensive to buy.  I know a hip granny who has a pet rat and adores it, too.”

Bottom Line

“Policies that encourage pet ownership among the aged, either at home or as they make the transition to elder living facilities, can improve some medical conditions and alleviate loneliness,” said Nalini Saligram, board chair of PAWSitive interAction.  Be it on a doctor’s chart or in the wordless testimony of the animal itself, creaataures of all kinds strenghen the lives they touch.

By Barbara Sharmak for WebVet

Reviewed by Amy I. Attas, VMD

February 21, 2010   Posted in: Uncategorized  2 Comments

Listen Live to “Dying To Be Heard, My new Internet Radio Show on Skype!

Hi Everyone, hope we all survived the holidays and kept some holiday cheer as well! New Radio show begins this Saturday night at 10:00 PM Eastern Time, live called “Dying to Be Heard”! This is not to be confused with the segment I did for CBS…on the home page….although you should check it out! New logo for the radio show will be up soon, new pics have to be taken~ You can call in at 1-310-601-4358, picking up the headset tonight! If you have ideas for the show, let me know….stories that are bizarre to those in the real world, well….they never are to me…..or just call in and talk to one of our unique guests, and we will have some very taleneted ones. Appointments are beginning on the 23rd for Saturdays, trying to help those who can’t make it during the week. New date for my show with the “Wolf”, now on Fridays from 6:00 am to 7:00 but will remain taking calls and having conversations with Dave and Michelle until the 9:00 o’clock hour.
My Skype name is Messenger 340 if you would like to become a fan, or friend. Look forward to hearing from you all….and tune in, so we can talk and discuss the here after, the now, and the before! Staying warm, or trying too! Happy Monday and have a great week! OOOPS, the station to check this out on is Para X Radio, Paranormal Radio, CBS Radio, and KAPS…check out the sites, and hopefully in the next few days the link to the show will be up…..not used to doing this solo, but will get the hang of it.
Peace be with you!
Vicki

January 11, 2010   Posted in: Uncategorized  No Comments

The Signs Of Seasonal Affective Disorder! By Beth W. Orenstein, Medically Reviewed by Pat F. Bass 111, Md. MPH

People who find they  have mild to severe depression in fall and wnter, when the days grow shorter, may have seasonal blues.  Women, espeically those in their twenties, are  most susceptible to seasonal affective disorder, but it can affect men and people of all ages, including children and teens.  Very often, people with seasonal depression have at least one close relative with  psychiatric disorder, typically major depressive disorder or alcohol abuse.

    SAD Symptoms emerge during the the darker winter months, then disappear as days grown longer and brighter come spring, says Ken Duckworth, MD, medical director of the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and an assistant professor at Harvard University Medical School.

     It’s estimated that half -million people in the United Statees may have Seasonal depression.

Seasonal Affective Disorder Symptoms

Symptoms Include:

Weight Gain.  Cravings for sweet and starchy foods lead to excess weight gain.

Daytim fatigue.  People with SAD are tired during the day and have less energy.  They may also find themselves sleeping alot, but getting no relief from their fatigue.  “With SAD,  you eat more and sleep more, ” Dr. Duckworth says.  “It’s hybernation-like.”

Increased irritability and anxiety.  People with SAD worry more about everyday events and can be easily irritated.  They can have trouble concentrating too.

Social withdrawl.  Those with SAD prefer to be alone; they shun the company of friends and family and do not participate in activities they normally enjoy.  Often their social behavior is hard to understand.

SAD is treatable, and there are various treatment methods.

SAD: Light Therapy

 

“Light Therapy does seem to have some effectiveness,” Duckworth says.  Light therapy boxes are available that mimic the outdoors.  You can buy them without a prescription, but they cost about $400.00 dollars and are not covered by insurance.  The best time to use light therapy is in the morning before going to work and give your self some sunshine,” Duchworth says.  Light therapy typically takes about 30 minutes a day.  Note: Do not try to use tanning beds as a treatment for SAD.  Tanning beds us ultraviolet rays, which can be harmful to your eyes and skin.

SAD: Professional Help

“Find a relationship with a clinician who can coach you through this and figure out if it is indeed SAD or if you do worse at Christmastime because your father died on Christmas Eve, for expample, ” Duckworth says.r

A medical professional also can prescribe antidepressants if necessary.

SAD: Other Treatment Methods

     Taking a vacation to where it’s warm and sunny.  “Go to Florida or to the Bahamas.  Go some place south with a lot of sun,” Duckworth says.  “If your family is a big source of stress, figure out a way to be with them that is not overwhelming to you.  Maybe plan your longer visits for the summer when you seem to be doing  better.”

Maintaining relationships with friends and family.  “Don’t stop going to church if you go to church,” Duckworth says.  Or having your girls night out, or movie night, whatever you do in the summer months, when you are better, try and continue them through out the winter months too.

Because SAD occurs during the winter months- when holiday festivities are in full force- self -medication is tempting.  “Alcohol use tends to go up in the winter as people attend more parties,” Duckworth says.  Howeve, he adds, “If you’re using alcohol or drugs to change the depressed way you feel this time of year, it’s probably compounding your problems as opposed to helping them.”

Created by Everyday Health.com 2009 Every Day Health Inc.  This material is used on their website for educational purposes only and not to be used for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

December 29, 2009   Posted in: Uncategorized  2 Comments

Thanks for the kind words!

It is always nice to hear that what you have written is helping others, and/or that it is appreciated, or even criticized by a different view. If we cannot see things from another’s perspective, then we never learn.  The lessons of life after death, are as old as time itself, simple, yet made complicated.  All souls, yes all……go to the otherside.  Some refer to this place as heaven, well, to some it maybe.  Other’s it’s home, and in truth that is the reality of this place.  Just a breath away from  wherever you are, is the world of our creation, from the mother of the earth, and the father of the sky, we are all connected.  Each and everyone of us.  And to each of us, heaven is whatever our minds, (spirit), not our brains, (physical), dreams it to be.  That is how our loved ones travel to this plane.  They no longer are encumbered by the body, the only thing capable of violence, hatred, bitterness, and evil.  Our souls are pure light, never tainted by the outside world, yet taking on the job, of keeping the physical as straight as the arrow can fly.  But we are tempted, and the soul cannot always reach us.  In this new year, remember that your loved ones are with you, no matter what anyone says, they are here, and they are there, we can feel them, smell them, watch them through our minds eye.  Don’t let others tell you, it is wishful thinking…..it is a wish come true.  No one is perfect here, but they, they are perfect there, and the love stays perfect.  It never waivers, not even a fraction of a bit.  Feel them in your dreams….watch them….believe in them, and they will show you more.  But first, you must realize that death is a physical thing.  But the soul lives forever, and we ourselves being spiritual beings will live forever too.  So if we are all spiritual beings, than our seperation is merely temporary.  We go on….but some choose to go on first.  If we realize this, then life doesn’t end with the body, it is reborn to the home of our creators, and all that have loved us, and all that we have loved, will be waiting.  Believe in them as they believe in you……you are all miracles, and being here, that is a miracle.  Forget the negative, and be the miracle each and every day…..if we all do this…..the world will change, and the spirit within will overtake the physical that wills itself to win.  Happy Holidays, and blessings for love, joy, and no goodbyes, for a wonderous New Year!  In light and in love,

Vicki

December 14, 2009   Posted in: Uncategorized  One Comment

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December 14, 2009   Posted in: Uncategorized  2 Comments

The tree is up, the lights are strung, and the shopping begins!

The holidays are meant to be a time of great happiness, thankfulness,and joy when friends and loved ones can come together. I get many e-mails and phone calls from people thanking me for helping them through the loss of a loved one, and that they feel a sense of peace and closure. Even in times like these, it is not unusual for many who have found that sense of peace, that recognize the signs of a loved ones presense, to feel sadness, and a deep seated lonliness that they hadn’t felt in while. Joy and sadness, love and hate, are very fine lines that can cross eachother leaving us with a sense of hopelessness, and a wonder if we ever felt better at all. Well….time does heal all wounds. But during festive times, when we see others enjoying family members that we have lost it is only natural to feel and become sad at not having our loved ones present. Here is the kicker though, when we have those moments when we just break down and cry, be it a song, movie, feeling, whatever over takes us at that moment, causing such a deep sadness, it is necessary. The reason, it’s not loss, it’s…….”them”. Yes, they are visiting! They know how much holidays can be joyful, and sorrowful to. Those deep sobs we feel at their loss, in physical terms, means they are hugging you! And the physical cannot understand nor apply resistance to it, so it becomes overwhelmed. But as you or me, or whomever relates to this knows…..after the tears stop, and we are up again, moving about our day. We see that the sadness or feeling of loss has been replaced by this sense of “knowing”, a feeling of peace, and love, and calm has taken it’s place. Our souls have absorbed all of the love they gave in that moment of grief. Take this to heart, and know they don’t forget, they never hurt, or are angry. That is a human aspect of the two. The soul remains pure, loving, compassionate, patient, and above all…non judgemental. That is their world. Our world. Where we come from, and will one day return to. Anger, hatred, bitterness, they are all feelings that only the physical can create. So during this time of joy/sadness….remember who ever has gone on ahead, is not away from you, but closer than ever before. If they were cruel in life, angry, spiteful, these are all gone now. They send only love to us. Forgiving these things is good. Forgetting them, not so much. Put them in your mind’s file. A lesson learned would be a terrible waste if lost in time. So during this holiday season, don’t let yourself feel lost. Find someone, there is always a person in need of caring, volunteering, and just sharing your time. Not only does it help you, in giving and receiving the joy of Christmas is delivers the greatest gift of all….love to others.
Happy Holidays!
Love and Light,
Vicki

December 8, 2009   Posted in: Uncategorized  No Comments

I’m not even close to being ready for the holidays!

If you are one of the those people who did their Christmas shopping on the day after Christmas last year….I’m goine to ……..applaude you. I am such a procrasinator! I hate malls, and anyone who knows me, also knows why! This year, I’m going to try and get busy with it, and be done, so I can enjoy. Wishing you all a very Happy and Festive Thanksgiving!

November 20, 2009   Posted in: Uncategorized  3 Comments

Back in New England for a very busy Holiday Season

Hi everyone,
Love hearing from you. Remember the holiday season is just around the corner, buy your one hour, or one half hour gift certificates now, before they are all gone! Book your personal or group gathering before the New Year, or even for after. Florida was fantastic, and the people were warm and inviting, and I made some excellent contacts, and will be back in St. Pete next October. For now, getting ready for the trip to Fort Bragg in N.C. Enjoy your day!

November 7, 2009   Posted in: Uncategorized  One Comment