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Don’t Prioritize Being Calm

Weekly Inspiration!

“Don’t prioritize being calm. Prioritize being “mindful.”

If you always try to be “calm” you will be subtly aggressive toward any state of mind that isn’t “calm,” which is most of them.

Calmness comes and goes. But Mindfulness gives you a tool to work with any situation.


Welcome everyone to my new weekly inspirational quote. I hope you will enjoy receiving them!

Just an update as to what we are doing here for the upcoming 2019 calendar! I have opened my books for In-Person Sunday reads. If you have ever wanted one, then give my office a call and we can schedule one for you! They do go very fast! Also, we have an upcoming Podcast that will begin airing in the next 2 weeks and I’m very excited about it, and the amazing ladies that will be working on this with me! Stay tuned to my website and face book pages!

Enjoy the rest of this long January, count your blessings, and leave your worries behind. Remember, worrying will never change the outcome of any situation, it will only rob you of that time.

I look forward to hearing from you with your own news and interests for future Podcasts, and any questions regarding mediumship, paranormal activity, and all things magical!

Many Blessings to you all!

July’s Inspirational Thoughts & Quotes

Summer is moving so fast, and I love this wonderful time of year. After a long and very cold winter, the windows can be opened, the porch is ready to be used, my garden is filling with fresh veggies and herbs, and my farm continues to grow.

I am forever thankful for the wonderful clients that return yearly for their sessions and to the many that I now call friends. To you all that have been following me all these 20 something years I thank you.My schedule was constantly being cancelled and rescheduled this year, many times for reasons beyond my control – power outages, snow filled driveways, sick grandchildren, and taking care of my family when they all came down with flues and viruses. I wish to thank all who had to change their dates and time sometimes more than once for your understanding and compassion. You are just the best people in the world.

I hope that you are all enjoying these warmer months and taking time to care for yourselves, both physically and spiritually. My messages this month follow. Through meditation I am working on another book, “Heaven Hears You”. These quotes are in the new book and I will continue to share them each month. I love feedback and if you have an inspirational quote you would like to share please send it our way!

These two quotes I just love and I hope you will too!


May you touch dragonflies and stars, dance with fairies and talk to the moon. And when you play like this long enough, may you hear them whisper back, Heaven Hears You.


To me being Spiritual means whispering to trees, laughing with the flowers, falling in love with sunsets, consulting with the water and worshipping the stars.
One hand to my heart.
One hand to the Earth.
And Pixie Dust, as much as you can carry. Sprinkle it as far as your mind can carry you!


Happy July everyone!
Love and light,

Cardinal Signs & Symbols, Message from Dean Brooks

What can These Cardinal Symbols Mean for You?

The Cardinal Color Red: Symbolic of Vitality, Importance, Faith & Power

Cardinals can bring color and vitality into our lives. Their crimson color can remind us of the importance of ourselves as individuals in the circle of life. As the cardinal red color is symbolic of faith, so it can remind us to “keep the faith” though circumstances might look bleak, dark and hopeless.

The Cardinal Cycle of Twelve: Symbolic of Cycles, Life, Death & Renewal

Twelve hours make a day and twelve months make a year. Twelve is a vital life cycle and regardless of the time of year, the time of day or the time of life you are presently confronting, you are a part of the cycle. You are a vital element in the circle of life and regardless of where you are in that cycle You always have the opportunity for restoration, revitalization and renewal.

The Cardinal Sounds: Symbolic of Cheer, Elevation, Clarity & Communication

The call of a cardinal can come to cheer us up, or cheer us on. The unique clarity of his call is can be used to gain our attention and lift us from our depression, our sorrow or perhaps our ordinariness. The cardinal’s call can call to us to do our duty. A cardinal call can tell us to give up any vanity or appearances we may be holding on to and follow the hope in our heart, a cardinal hope that will lead us, on our upward journey through the cycle of life.

Cardinal Parenting & Mating: Symbolic of Care, Duty, Dedication & Transformation

**The female cardinal’s voice in the world may remind a woman that she too has a voice and it may be time to find it and begin expressing herself. The parental and mating behavior of cardinals can remind us that our dedication to nurturing and caring for our loved one is also a part of the natural life cycle.

The caring manor of a male cardinal can remind us that we are never really alone, that there is a father above who will always protect and care for us. Cardinal Health is symbolic of: strength, readiness, self-preservation & vitality.

The cardinal may be suggesting that our current diet may be injurious to our health. The cardinal can be a sign that we must be prepared to fight for our health.

When the fiery crown of a cardinal rises, it can also let us know that we have the strength of spirit within us to win the fight!

A Brief History of the Cardinal Symbol

While we usually think of a symbol as a visual form, much of the meaning can be found in the origins of the word that identifies that form. The history of the word cardinal sheds a lot of light on it’s symbolic meanings today. So, where did the roots of the word cardinal come from? And, how did the word cardinal come to define the bird?

Interestingly, the base root of the word cardinal is actually connected to the word cross. It comes from the Old Norse word, kross and the Latin word, crux. For the ancient Romans, the Latin word crux, had come to mean “a guidepost that gives directions at a place where one road becomes two”. Today the root word cross is contained in many words we commonly use: across, crucial, crucify, cruise (to cross the sea, or go backwards and forwards), cruiser, crusade, crux, and excruciate. The cross is of course universally recognized as a Christian symbol, but the symbol of the cross
was not used by Christian’s alone. The same symbol was also used by early Mexicans. It was one of the emblems of Quetzalcoatl, as lord of the four cardinal points, and the four winds that blow therefrom. In the cardinal sense, the cross represents fourfold systems: the four directions: north, south, east, and west; the four seasons; the four elements; the four winds; etc.

In the thirteenth century, Dante attributed Cardinal Virtues of Justice, Prudence, Temperance and Fortitude, to the four brightest stars in the Southern Cross. This was done before the discovery and naming of the constellation (in 1679). As history reveals, the early explorers used the four cardinal directions in the form of a cross to discover the new world. Our world itself is constructed in the shape of a cross, whose four points correspond to the four cardinal points or intersections of the horizon with the meridian.

So, how did the word cardinal come to define the bird? The word cardinal originates from the Latin word cardinali, meaning principal or chief. The chief Catholic priests from the Vatican in Rome are Cardinals, who wear ‘cardinal’ red cassocks. Cardinal is also a vivid red color. The family of birds, known as the Cardinalis, takes its name from the color of the cassocks worn by the cardinal priests.

Now that we have seen where the symbols of the cross and the color come from, we can continue to the heart of the matter. Cardinal is also rooted in the heart, originating from the root word cardo, meaning heart. Cardo, also stems into the word cardinis, used for the hinge of a door, or a pivot; that on which something turns. In Latin, cardo means hinge or axis, something on which all else depends, as does the general meaning of the word crucial. What does a hinge have to do with a heart?

A hinge (cardo) is literally the place on which a door swings and is always moved. It is so called after the term Greek kardia (heart), because as the heart (cor) governs and moves the whole person, just as this pivot governs and moves a door. The cross has four points, and the human heart has four chambers or closed spaces, two atria and two ventricles. In Latin cardium means heart. In Greek word for heart is kardia, which comes from the Indo-European root kerd meaning heart and that is as far back into the history of the word cardinal we were able to reach.

I understand now, that in the same way the cardinal brings hope and cheer in the bareness of winter, he beacons us to rise above our grieving hearts and know that there is a full and happy life beyond death and sadness. This little red bird is a messenger of hope and all this time he has been shouting “cheer, cheer”, how foolish I feel now that I could not hear what he was trying so hard to tell me. From – http://www.thecardinalexperience.com/journey/index.php?page=pages&id=1

Cardinals have a long symbolic history of visiting those who are saddened by loss, in particular, a “Cardinal Loss”, the heartrending loss of a loved one. It was through a series of visitations from a small red cardinal that the answers to many painful questions about living life, after death began to unfold, and ironically, as I began sharing my Cardinal Experience with others, others began sharing their unique Cardinal Experiences with me. That’s when I began researching and discovered that the Cardinal Experience was a phenomenal encounter that had touched countless human lives throughout history. While the experience itself was enlightening, it was through the act of sharing this Cardinal phenomenon that the dark pain of grief began transforming into the light of hope, and so our mission began.

Cardinal Signs & Symbols thanks to Guest Blogger, Dean Brooks

The Difficult Decision to End the Suffering

I looked up from the front-office switchboard just as the young woman stumbled through the front door.  She stood blinded by her tears in the middle of the shelter  lobby, immobilized by her distress.  I quickly slipped from behind the counter and approached her.  “Can I help you?”  I asked kindly, suspecting what she was about to say.

Instead of speaking, the woman thrust her hand forward.  I removed the slip of paper from her clenched fingers and read it silently.  “I have to put my dog Molly to sleep” she had written.  “I knew I wouldn’t be able to talk when I got here, so I wrote this note.”

Tears welled in my own eyes. I reached out to touch her shoulder in sympathy and she flung her arms around my neck, sobbing.  “It’s okay to cry,” I assured her.  I hugged her for a long moment, then, with my arm still around her shoulders, I gently guided her to a small room just off the lobby and sat next to her.  With as much compassion as possible, tears spilling down my cheeks, too, I asked her the questions that had to be answered, and filled out the necessary form.  What kind of dog was Molly? (Oh, Pomeranians are wonderful dogs, I have one myself. I know how hard this must be for  you…) How old is she? (Eighteen years? How lucky she is to have had such a long life with you.  Still, it’s never long enough….)  Why  does she need to be euthanized? (Cancer.  I’m so sorry…)  I worked at the  Humane Society for 20 years.  Almost daily, owners brought their old, ill, injured, and infirm dogs to the shelter so we could end their pets’ suffering.  It never got easier. Molly and her owner came to the shelter in the last month of my employment there.  The woman’s pain pierced my heart just as sharply as the pain of the first owner whose request for euthanasia I had heard 20 years before.

Anyone who has ever had to make that incredibly difficult decision to end a canine, cat, horse, whatever type of animal or other cherished pets life knows how all-consuming that grief can be-how deeply it penetrates your soul, and how close to the surface the pain lingers, even years after the loss.

The Last Kind Thing

Euthanasia literally means “good death,” from the Greek words eu (“good) and thanatos (“death”).  Euthanasia by injection is the method considered the most humane by the American Veterinary Medical Association, and all major animal- protection groups.  It is a combination of injecting an overdose of an anesthesia drug- sodium pentobarbital into the animal’s vein or, in some cases abdominal cavity.  After the drug has been administered, the animal lapses into unconsciousness within seconds, and death follows shortly after.  If you have ever been anesthetized for surgery,  you know what an animal experiences during euthanasia:  One moment you are conscious, and the doctor is telling you to count backwards from 100, and then you’re out.  The difference, of course, is that you wake up in the recovery room later,  remembering almost nothing of what happened during the relatively short time that you were unconscious.

We use euphemisms for the act of ending our pets’ lives, because we don’t want to say that we killed them.  We “Put Them To Sleep.” We “send them to the Rainbow Bridge.”     We need to believe we aren’t killing them.  You are not.  Websters dictionary defines killing as “depriving life.”  When its time for your pet to die because of old age, untreatable disease, injury, or even serious behavior problems, you aren’t depriving him of  life as much as you are giving him a gift.  You are relieving his suffering and easing a passage that every living creature will eventually and inevitably face.  You are doing the last kind thing for him after a lifetime of loving kindness.  You are giving him the privilege of a good death.

Take the time to say good-bye in a way that you would like to remember.

Knowing When

When you know in your heart that it is time , don’t let anyone talk you out of it.  If your veterinarian tells you he can keep your pet alive for three more weeks with a new treatment, but your instincts tell you differently, or your resources are stretched to thin and you have already mentally prepared yourself for the death, you don’t have to succumb to the “life at any cost” temptation.

Your best friend may tell you that your pet doesn’t look so bad, but follow your own truths.  She doesn’t know your pet like you do.  She may not see how depressed the animal is, or understand how humiliated she feels when she soils herself.  You kn ow what’s right  for your pet.  From Pat Miller and my own perspective, as I have always honored the love of my pets, and my instincts on when they have had enough.  You know the end is now.  When bad days start to out number the good, try to choose a good day for her final one.  That way in your last memories of her, she still has some wag in her tail and some sparkle in her eye.

Know that all living things cross over to the other side.  Home.  In fact…they become young and full of what we remember, and they wait for us.  They are the first for us to see when our turn to cross over is.  The light that brought us into this life, awaits ever brither upon our return, and a soft, bundle of wet kisses, and wagging tails are the very thing to take us back.  With their unconditional love….who better to help us know where we are going.  And with endless and unconditional love they do.

Written by Pat Miller, with additional comments by Vicki Monroe.

Do You Believe In Soul Mates?

Hi Everyone!  Been a while…don’t grumble…winters are long and hard for me.  The solitude of the New England weather, the darkness, and the insurmountable endless days and nights that flow without care, one into another, until we wonder what day it is?  And how much longer the winds will whip, and the snow and rains will fall, before a flower peaks up through the thawing ground.  This winter has left me much time to speculate and has given me a long awaited chance to rethink things of the past, some things to leave there, a memory best left in my mind, a lesson best remember for all time.  And other things …mistakes, issues that became more than they needed, friends forgotten…now recalled, and how as time continues it’s pursuit in the ultimate ending…we all have purpose.  We all are spiritual beings who chose a human existence.  We are here to learn, to love, to forgive, and not forget.  To forget is a lesson lost, and each lifetime heeds us many lessons.  The reason for  my question, in my title, is that through out this winter, this has been a question that I have heard over and over again.  Many people searching for that ultimate someone.  The person that will fulfill them.  To bring them the happiness they just can’t seem to find on their own.

The job, the money, the security, the knowing that “I cannot live this life alone, there has to be something else?”  But…what if this is all…there is nothing more.  You are where you are, and that is that.  Is this a terrible thing?  Did you make so many mistakes that the life you have can not be made into a good thing?  Are you with the wrong person?  Are you always looking for the grass to be greener on the other side of the fence?

Here’s my take on that.  No.  Not ever.  You are the living example of the choices you make.  You are the ultimate being in this world in that body, and all you believe can be changed.  All you choose can be undone.  And the person you thought you loved, and even married, can be undone, just remember something drew you to that person, a word, a look, an energy.  So many people have guilt.  Guilt over not being able to say goodbye,  of not being there when a loved one passes.  Of being the one to say, “It’s over.  I can’t do this anymore.  Or…”I loved you once, but that has faded, and I must go.  Or even to say…I have found another.”  These are real emotions.  Real feelings.  And we are not to feel guilt.  Falini once said…”Guilt is a waste of time….it is the past crippling us in the present.”  I so agreed with those words, I don’t believe we make mistakes when we choose this earthly incarnation.  We move through it.  Defying it, loving it, challenging it, and all along the way we meet others.  Some we feel a strange draw too, perhaps an attraction?  These are souls from past lives, they were lovers, friends, or merely close family…some we meet may be instantly disliked.  A feeling of wariness, or a fear even.  Also from another life.  Karma is a big bowl to hang onto if you don’t let a lot of it go.  How?  Make peace with those you dislike.  Be kind, sincere, and walk away.  If they in turn do not send the same feelings, it doesn’t matter, you and your souls karma have cleared them from your journey, never having to face that one again.  As is in every relationship, moment, and chance.  All of these we have chosen.  Soul mates are everywhere.  They are people who seem like siblings, even when the blood is not the same.  Do not feel guilty or honor bound to your blood relations, it means nothing, if the love there is not equal and only one is trying.  Eventually you will wear yourself out, trying to make the other happy.  And this, my friends is not living.  It is existing.  So release them, cut the chord, move onward, that leads ultimately, upward, outward, wherever the next world begins.  Lovers, they are the one thing every person seeks, and rarely finds, at least the first time.  We search and search…sometimes marrying the one person, we feel compelled to stay with, whom we aren’t absolutely certain about, worry about, yet want no onther to have them.  This is a past life love.  A certain devotion, and we carry on until we can no longer enable ourselves, but feel disabled to stay.  I know many stay for their children.  But if you remember, that all souls start in the same place, with the same task at hand, then children know exactly what we know.  They knew in the spirit world that love would always be there, but the faces may change.  Divorce is hard, and no matter when it happens or why, there is pain.  To say there isn’t would be lying.  Any time a relationship that carries feelings and love ends, their is pain.  Yet…when time begins to heal us, and cure us of our ills, we see that perhaps their is another, a person we never dreamed would come into our lives.  Yet again, when we meet them, it is an instant feeling of emotion.  These are soul mates too.  There are soul mates that make us feel instant attraction, and sexual feelings.  Others that we know are and will be our lifetime friends, and family.  And many that will teach us, guide us, for a day, a year, or longer, and then they are gone, but never forgotten.  Animals are soul mates.  Who has never not felt their heart break at the loss of a devoted pet, not matter what kind of pet it is.  They too, will travel the road home, the first for us to meet, when our turn to end this particular life is terminated.  As I tell all my clients, and from the lessons I have learned, love comes in many forms, embrace it.  Challenge it.  Change it.  When we lose passion for things, it is our infinite wisdom, our souls purpose to signal a change.  Rather than sit and feel sad, stand up, walk ahead, and see the light in the distance, it’s a new day, and new dawn, and no matter where your feet carry you.  Where your heart takes you, love is always there, perhaps in the eyes of a stranger…from hundreds of years ago.  Life is a mystery…your life is a novel, make the tale one of passion, profit and patience, and you have lived a life of wonder.